The inspiration to write this post comes from my all time favourite poem Matilda. It is the story of a girl who lies all the time and eventually falls prey to her own fabricated tales. Though my choice of poetry may seem very shallow, I being a staunch supporter of the ‘lying is not always bad’ theory ,thought of exploring this idea a little further.
A lie is a type of deception in the form of an untruthful statement with the intention to deceive, often with the further intention to maintain a secret or reputation, or to avoid punishment – this is how Wikipedia puts the definition.In plain terms its what we do when we are desperate to save our neck or when we hate to hurt the feelings of someone we love. I can vividly recollect the first time I lied – I was probably 3(I had a pretty early start) and was involved in a fight with some boy from my kindergarten class.He had complained that I talk a lot and I had made up some terrible story about him.It didn’t take much time for my teacher to take stock of the situation and bring peace but I hated that boy so much. I never had to lie after that till my marks in a particular exam came out to be extremely horrendous and I was scared to reveal it to my parents.Not that they would scold me – they would any ways scold me later on but my self respect and this whole bubble of expectations I lived in pushed me to lie. By normal standards I lie sometimes but its always for fun or to tease someone and in good spirit.
I happen to believe that you can lie when you speak and you can also lie when you don’t. Some people just stay silent though they may have certain opinions because they don’t want to get involved. I think that’s the biggest kind of lying.You don’t only lie to yourself but also betray the trust of someone who is looking at you for support. I have been at both the receiving end and the giving end and you would never want to be in either of them. Like Mark Twain said
‘Always speak the truth.That way you don’t have to remember what you said’.
If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.I think that’s the first step.As easy as it may sound it isn’t. Then again it isn’t impossible either. So be honest to yourself and you will not fear being honest about others as well.